10 Mar 2015
Are you in the middle of a money mess? In debt? Maybe feeling all alone? Are you trying to deal with the situation all by yourself or are you involving your family? Are you sharing with them your fears?
All too often I hear of one spouse keeping the total financial picture hidden from the other spouse. Many do this out of shame, feeling that they have let their family down. Others keep their financial situation hidden because the fear how their spouse will react. Then there are others that are hiding things because they have intentionally done something that is against the covenant of the marriage. Regardless of the situation it is best to be open and honest. There have been many stories in the news about how one spouse cannot face the fact of a financial failure to their family so they take their own life, some even take the lives of their family as well. For what? Money? Nothing is worth taking a life, especially money.
Remember the TV show Little House On The Prairie? It is a timeless show, one that has a good family and character message in every show. Something lacking in 98.9% of television today. To this very day I enjoy watching this show and the other day the episode was “The Richest Man In Walnut Groove“. If you do not know, the show centers around the Ingalls family, in this episode Charles had been working very hard for two months only to find out the company that was suppose to pay him has gone bankrupt. Charles didn’t get paid and this meant that he was unable to pay his bill at the local Olsen Mercantile. The owner of the Mercantile, Harriet Olsen, demeaned Carolyn, Charles’s wife, about the fact that they owned two months on the bill. Charles was very ashamed he couldn’t make the payment he had promised. He stated to the family that they would not put anything else on store credit. If they couldn’t pay cash they would have to go without until he could clear the bill.
Do Anything To Make Extra Money
Work was scarce but Charles took on any work he could find, such as cleaning a stable for only $.25/day and digging out a drainage ditch for a neighbor just to make some type of income.
Be Honest and Open
He shared openly with his family the situation they were in. His family were not only understanding, they very were supportive. They all agreed to help out and earn extra money. They all agreed they would do without right down to not having enough school paper for homework. Mary, the oldest daughter (maybe 12) quit school to sew for the local seamstress, Laura (the daughter the series was written from, Laura Ingalls Wilder book) did extra chores around the house while Carolyn worked the crops. The whole family pulled together for three weeks or so until they made enough collectively to pay off the debt at the mercantile as well as stock up on supplies which they paid cash for. On the way out of the store, Harriet’s husband Nels Olsen looks at the whole family and tells Charles “You are the Richest Man in Walnut Groove”.
Being rich should not be measured by the amount of money in your pocket. It should be measured by something that no amount of money can pay for, love of family. Support of family. Today families are so focused on giving stuff that the family is going broke. Mom’s and Dad’s are working all day while the kids are being raised by strangers in day cares, why? To pay for stuff that they think will make them happy. What makes a family happy is being together. What being together as a family does is create a wealth that is priceless.
A Real Investment
Consider cutting back on lifestyle and increasing focus on family time, you will be surprised what a great investment that is and how much it pays off, a payoff what will be priceless now and for many many years to come.